Or Babe

...or toots...

Now, Babs, whoever would use such a demeaning, sexist term to you?

With regard to the topic of beind addressed in a demeaning fashion ('cause you're a chick -- )....here's my strategy...<P>The man calls me 'darlin'. I respond with, "No problem, honeyhips." <P>The man calls me 'baby.' I respond with, "Okay, sweetiepie."<P>I guess I just don't let it get to me. I truck on through because I know I have a job to accomplish. Not to say that my fellow female compatriots in this forum should quell their distaste for such treatment. But I have found that men are taken aback by such comments coming right back at them from women. And they tend to think twice when they address you the next time. <P>We are currently on vacation in Seattle and it is raining. We're going to find a bookstore and have a good time! <P>M

Actually, I do the same thing. The minute you let them see you're bugged, they've won. One of my favorite endearments is "babycakes". That one went over very well in Providence, RI.

Meredith, I am now officially miffed; you have never once referred to me as either "honeyhips" or "sweetiepie".<P>I'm sure the <I>other</I> terms you used to call me were meant affectionately. . . .<p>[This message has been edited by salzberg (edited August 21, 2001).]

I prefer "Snookums" for the guys I know will know that shouldn't have said what they did, and "Babe doll" for those that don't have a clue.

Was thinking about your "most inspiring" teacher statement, Salzberg....I would have liked to have had a teacher like that. Did he get you involved with your profession?

No, that would have been my high school drama teacher, who -- desperate for something that would get me out of his hair -- put me to work making home-made lighting fixtures.<P>David taught me set design. More important, he taught me a different way of looking at the world.<P>He probably wouldn't remember me -- but I'll never forget him.

It can't ever hurt in an extreme situation of harassment to ask the offender if his 'daddy's beaten that charge of assault agin' his mama' yet.... <P>We leave Seattle tonight, after having spent two very lovely days in B.C. <P>If you don't here from me again, it's 'cause Delta crashed another plane (doh!).<P>Meredith

Comments please!!!!

From an outsider's perspective, I'd say this is a very useful article. It ties in with the talk I heard from Rambert's Stage Manger. Booking pianos and the associated tasks loomed large in her life.

<small>[ 03 July 2003, 01:10 PM: Message edited by: Stuart Sweeney ]</small>

Stage managing is certainly about details, but it's primarily about people.

When I taught at Stephens College, stage management was a freshman course. I always thought this was unfortunate; when you're 18, they world is still revolving about you, whereas to the best stage managers, the world is all about the needs of other people.

So true. the best stage managers I worked with were well organized, well adjusted individuals with few ego issues, who always put the show and performers first, and had memories like traps and nerves of steel. They also had tremendous senses of humor, which I think is a pre-requisite for the job.

I have also noticed that nowadays there seem to be more female stage managers than male ones. I always chalked that up to the job being a bit like " show mom".

I'd say another challenge is not only looking out for the needs of the performers, but all of the designers! you are doing - or why.

What a great article. I have half a mind to post it at work....because you know many performers don't actually understand what