well. my, my! take 24 hours 'off' and look how complicated things get!!!
<P>this has certainly become a complex thread - maybe it's several threads? i might split it. if something that WAS here, isn't here any more, please DO go looking for it, OK? thanks!<P>anyway, re this:<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Asking questions is a good thing!!! But when it questions the authority of the adults in an insolent manner it is not a good thing. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>that's disconcerting and personally upsetting (the 'insolent manner' bit), as it comes across as directly NOT appreciating YOU. i understand that. <P>but in the dance class, there are plenty of other reasons NOT to ask (too many) questions - (which i know that 'we' all know perfectly well) - reasons like creating a good working pace, and not losing body 'warmth' and focusing on the task at hand, etc...so the child who is used to discussing everything before s/he agrees to do it, is a real liability in a dance class! <P>i think there is an element of the 'culture' of dance class, which has to be taught in this regard. the behaviour pattern which might suit the home, is, in this case, not one which will make for effective progress in the studio. <P>unfortunately, this may be perceived as a bad attitude from the teacher's point of view (haha! isn't teaching FUN sometimes!
) all you can do is explain quietly, privately and firmly the REASONS WHY - so it isn't just perceived as teacher's 'domination', then stick to your guns calmly and firmly in the class!<P>i HAVE experienced this, and feel that each of us has to draw a line as to how and where we can effectively work - some stresses just aren't worth the money, no matter how badly you need it!<P>j - this sounds bad to me, and i hope it changes or you move on - it just gets you down so badly to be treated as the outsider. that brings up another point, actually - in the scenario you describe, at the very least the teachers have to stick together too, the same way the kids are doing. if the kids alienate you and the teachers are all too busy going in their own directions to support each other, then you just feel completely alone and unappreciated and unsupported - not good for one's emotional health! good luck!