i agree, niki, with the points made above.<P>i also think that even just among those who have responded already, you would get (quite amazingly, really) a VERY representative sampling of parent/ballet child scenarios!<P>me: academic parents who tried mightily to discourage dance. michael: mother a ballet teacher, growing up in the studio, so to speak. lucy: "bred to be a dancer"/TWO ballet focused parents to back her up.....maggie: don't know where she fits in re her childhood, but i know she has a lot of common-sense to add! and intuviel, when she returns - a 16 year old with academic/professional parents BUT ones who DO support her passion! there is also another older teen with much to contribute, whose focus may be broader than intuviel's, and whose family background is different again.<P>fascinating cross-section!<P>once a few more people have seen it, i think we'll move this thread down to 'The Studio', even though it IS an 'Issue' - i hope you won't mind?....<P>personally, i find board discussions the MOST rewarding when people are clearly focused, so yes: i would strongly suggest that you clarify your OWN thoughts as to what you need to know MOST, or FIRST....and pose just one question at a time. i think we are all champing at the bit to start responding with our own stories!