Basheva, I thankyou many times over for yourinsight and wisdom, I can always count on a thoughtful reply from you and actually all the replies are insightful. Joanne,It is the end of the term, and time to sign up for next year, which is why this is coming up.That's what I usually tell her, wait until the show and see how you feel, until the end of the year, next show. She is in the middle of a month long break. And Nutcracker auditions are coming up, I agree that she needs an independant dance experience and will look elsewhere for classes for me.(oh the sacrifices we moms make, that is a tough one, especially the nutcracker if I need to do that) I have given her a option, as someone mentioned, of choosing another activity, like take up an instrument or art classes or something like that, so she knows she isn't going to replace the time spent dancing with TV and telephone and IMs.<BR>I have heard from many people how they did appreciate their parents not letting them quit, like you Athena,and have gone on to master the art, be it music, or dance, and appreciated it as an adult.But actually forcing her seems wrong also, like you say. One teacher once told me that she "made" her daughter do dance, that kids don't know what they want. Her daughter is now 20 and appreciative of all the "neet things" she can do.<BR>Thank you for sharing your story Red Shoes.Yes, unfortunately ballet does have a "nerdy" image at school, and that is what she is experiencing also. That is what I am hoping for her, is a sort of anchor with dance for her, during those rocky years to come. Any more experience with this, as a teen, teacher, or mom?