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Annie, I have a student now who has problems which sound similar to those you describe. She is very shy, and gets nervous in class. She then "hits the wall," and can't remember even a simple combination. Her brain just shuts down.<P>In an effort to help her, I have talked with her and she has been able to analyze some of the components. Certainly there is the fear of what other students might think, as Basheva has mentioned. She also is concerned about my reaction (as her teacher) to any possible mistakes. She knows I am not the kind of teacher to cast judgment on a person for mistakes in class, and that I see mistakes as steps taken on the road to success. She admits to being a perfectionist. She wants it to be right, now. And then there is the music. It is one thing to get the steps in your own time, but the music is demanding her to produce in its time.<P>When I give a combination, she is not only trying to learn the combination. She is figuring out technical details at the same time she is trying to learn the sequence. And if she comes upon something that is different or new, alarms go off in her head that she may not be able to do it perfectly. Everyone else is trying to work through the material. For them it is an exciting challenge. For her, it is overwhelming.<P>Gradually she is overcoming this. Understanding what is going on in her head has helped. Talking things through has helped. Trying to focus on the process instead of the "what if's" (what if they laugh at me? what if the teacher is angry? what if I don't do it exactly right and I die of embarrassment right in the middle of class?) has helped. Usually, even when she is challenged by a few counts, there are many more counts that she is really capable of doing, and realizing that has made it easier. If the music is faster than she can handle, she stands in the back and works at her own tempo until she feels confident enough to give it a try at full speed. <P>So, between changing her focus and coming up with coping strategies, she is making progress.<P>I don't know much about hypnotherapy in such cases, but perhaps if you start by talking with your teacher, you'll be able to come up with a plan together to help you work through your shyness and nervousness in class.
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